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So, I just began our road to planning our wedding. How exciting, right? I thought that it would be an awesome idea to talk about relationships!
So I know, not everyone thinks they need to be in a relationship and thats ok, its all about self progress. I feel like if you weren't content with where you are in life you wouldn't be able to share your life with someone else and thats ok too. Personally, I think growth with someone is amazing and during any relationship, no matter at what point of life it started, you should be able to look back and say wow, that person helped my growth and I did the same. Pushing each other to be great human beings are what its all about. You want the idea to be successful together.
My relationship with my fabulous fiancé started in our sophomore year of high school. We have been going strong for 7 years and counting and we constantly push each other to greatness. We are both almost finished with school and already have plans to go back for our masters. Even though we are amazing together there have been a lot of arguments. If a relationship doesn't entail any sort of argument, it's not healthy. This basically means that someone isn't letting their feelings out and eventually they're going to blow up into insane rage. Let me start by saying there are definitely those arguments where you literally have to just stop and laugh at yourself for getting mad at something so stupid. Then there are arguments where there is a point to be made, both of you just need to cool down. Screaming at each other helps, but no one listens. So get all the anger out and then sit and try to have a normal conversation.
Obviously, arguments are just a tiny part of what goes into the relationship. Both of you have to want it. There has to be effort coming from both sides in order for the love to last. Sometimes, I believe relationships don't last because either one person gets tired or they just forget to give the relationship enough attention. Just like anything, it needs attention, patience and understanding. I think without those three things, there is nothing. You have to understand that the person you are in a relationship with has grown up with a different background and they will see the world in a completely different view than yours. But, this also makes it interesting because you get to learn something out of your comfort zone. You get to participate in things together that you may not know you enjoy but come to love because of your significant other.
I've noticed, with my relationship, we laugh A LOT. If you can't be comfortable enough to laugh with each other everyday about something stupid or not, what is there? You're spending your life with this person, thats a lot of years! To many to be serious all the time!
So I guess i'll leave you with this. Laugh A LOT, scream if you have to, listen to your partner and make sure your understanding and have enough patience to get that two complete strangers are turning into one family. It will work, it's just learning about each other and that can't happen over night!
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